Don’t panic—I’m referring to breaking up with wedding vendors!
I think it goes without saying that we put a lot of effort into picking vendors out for our wedding.?Even having conversations with friends, meeting a vendor, and saying, “Yup, we’re going with you,” takes time and effort. Sometimes, though, it just doesn’t work out.
My experience? I booked a hair/makeup trial at a salon that came highly recommended by?a couple of friends who used it for their respective weddings. I scheduled my trial?for the day of my bridal shower so I could give my hair/makeup a good test run. I brought lots of photos and, I felt, was pretty clear about what I wanted. I, a self-proclaimed makeup addict who wears a full face of makeup pretty much every day, was also looking forward to the “treat yourself” aspect of getting my hair and makeup professionally done.
Some self-applied NYE?makeup. I kind of look like half-Asian Tinkerbell with all that glitter. / Source: personal
The salon was pleasant enough to work with, but it just wasn’t a good fit. What I got from the salon was pretty different from my inspiration photos. I asked for my look to be altered during my appointment, but we ran out of time.?My professional hair and makeup wasn’t terrible,?but I just didn’t feel like myself.
“What do you think? How do you feel?” This GIF = my face at the end of my appointment,工作地. / Source: NBC/Parks and Recreation via Wikia
I rushed home to fix my makeup and loosen up/re-pin parts of my hair prior to my shower.?After I was done, I realised that I had to fix a lot of things in order to feel comfortable with my look. Did I really want to stick with this salon and potentially be doing this on our wedding day? Probably not. On a positive note, I felt pretty good about my makeup application skills and realised that I could get away with doing my own makeup for my wedding.
Only showing you the after of my trial. I fixed my brows, my eyeliner, and added a little more blush. Oops, I have raccoon eyes. / Source: personal
Hive, I really hemmed and hawed over breaking up with this vendor.?I felt bad about taking away business that I had already booked with them, and I wondered if I was being too precious about my hair/makeup. Dumping them would also mean me scrambling to find another salon a month before our wedding—eep!
The bottom line, however, was that I wasn’t happy and I wasn’t sure that this was something the salon could fix. My gut was telling me to find another salon, and I didn’t want to be stressed about how my hair/makeup would turn out for our wedding day. I also wasn’t willing to pay for another trial to try and get things right…it just wasn’t in the budget for me. It was time to rip off the Band-Aid.
If you’re in the unfortunate position of having to break up with a vendor and you’re a confrontation avoider like I am,?here are my tips…
1,4749铁算盘. Check your contract.
Did you sign a contract with your vendor and pay a deposit for their service(s)? You might not be able to break up with a vendor without losing your deposit or having to pay a penalty.
2. Be polite and concise.
Be direct with your vendor and provide written notice even if you don’t have a contract. Provide constructive criticism if?your vendor asks for it, but don’t be rude about it. You might be upset, yes, but you might end up working with this vendor again in the future.
3. Brace yourself.
Your vendor will hopefully take your break-up professionally. They may try to negotiate with you and offer a discount, but stick to your guns if you feel uncomfortable.
I scoured the internet for some advice on how to word my email and found some great suggestions here. Here’s the email I sent to the vendor:
“Dear [manager name],
Thank you for having me in for a hair and makeup trial on XX date. It was nice to meet you and your team.
While I appreciate the work you did, I’ve decided to go in a different direction?for my bridal?hair and makeup. I would like to provide you with written notice that?I no longer require your services on XX date for wedding hair and makeup.
Thank you again for your time and effort.
All the best,
In the end, I found another salon (much more in line with my aesthetic and vision!) to use for my hair. I’ll be doing my own wedding makeup—wish me luck.
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